Embracing Winter

February 1, 2020

February 1, 2020 If you’re like me, you see winter as a good time to catch up on some reading, and I’d like to share with you a few books that have impressed me. In my book, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, I wrote about how my own life experiences have impacted my understanding of my … Read more

A post-summer update

November 19, 2019

November 19, 2019 Signs of Fall in Iowa The monarch butterflies are gathering in our trees to begin their migration to Mexico—and making Doug and me think about a winter migration there as well—and the songs of the cicadas remind us in Iowa that the first frost is not far off.  It was a busy … Read more

Too cold to go out? ⛄Here are some things to do indoors

February 24, 2019

February 24, 2019 Winter in Iowa can be tough, but I fondly remember the excitement of snow days as a child when our teachers would pop popcorn, serve dill pickles, and spend much of the day reading to us. When I was in high school, in the evenings with bad weather, my friends gathered in … Read more

You’re invited: Spring cruise to Barcelona! 🌞

December 28, 2018

December 28, 2018 You’re invited: Spring cruise to Barcelona! 🌞: Join Us for a Spring Cruise! I invite you to join me and several other older gay men this spring on a transatlantic cruise from Fort Lauderdale to Barcelona. I’ve been invited to speak a few times to the travelers, and I look forward to … Read more

Do You Suffer from the Curse of an Attraction to Older Gay Men?

November 27, 2018

November 27, 2018 The Curse of an Attraction to Older Gay Men: Daddy issues, money, or perfectly natural? Having spoken with several other men who have age disparities in their attractions and relationships, I decided to write about it for Psychology Today. Apparently the topic isn’t discussed very much-even within the gay community-as this essay really took off after … Read more