February 1, 2020 If you’re like me, you see winter as a good time to catch up on some reading, and I’d like to share with you a few books that have impressed me. In my book, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, I wrote about how my own life experiences have impacted my understanding of my … Read more
November 19, 2019 Signs of Fall in Iowa The monarch butterflies are gathering in our trees to begin their migration to Mexico—and making Doug and me think about a winter migration there as well—and the songs of the cicadas remind us in Iowa that the first frost is not far off. It was a busy … Read more
February 24, 2019 Winter in Iowa can be tough, but I fondly remember the excitement of snow days as a child when our teachers would pop popcorn, serve dill pickles, and spend much of the day reading to us. When I was in high school, in the evenings with bad weather, my friends gathered in … Read more
December 28, 2018 You’re invited: Spring cruise to Barcelona! 🌞: Join Us for a Spring Cruise! I invite you to join me and several other older gay men this spring on a transatlantic cruise from Fort Lauderdale to Barcelona. I’ve been invited to speak a few times to the travelers, and I look forward to … Read more
November 27, 2018 The Curse of an Attraction to Older Gay Men: Daddy issues, money, or perfectly natural? Having spoken with several other men who have age disparities in their attractions and relationships, I decided to write about it for Psychology Today. Apparently the topic isn’t discussed very much-even within the gay community-as this essay really took off after … Read more