am in my early thirties, and I came out about a year ago after years of
casually dating women while having discreet sexual encounters with men much,
much older than me. Since coming out, I have tried to date guys closer to my
own age but have found that the sexual attraction just isn’t there for me.
am grappling with the fact that my desires are what they are and trying to
reconcile them with expectations for where I want to be in my own life, how I
present myself to others, and my fear of judgment from friends and family.
don’t I feel the same attraction to guys closer to my own age than I do to guys
20–30+ years older than me? How could a 65-year-old man and I possibly live
every day together? I feel that I should be seeking a more “practical” lifelong
partner. We are so vastly different in terms of schedule and lifestyle. These
are the questions I ask myself.
This is an important question and one I am asked about frequently. First, loving another person is never practical. Our attraction to another is not a rational process but happens due to forces outside of our consciousness and control.